I also don't seem to find time to do the laundry, or the dishes, or pick up the house. I felt a little guilty about the state of things last week. Then I read this post by my unidirectional blog friend (i.e. I read her blog every day and think of us as friends, but she has absolutely no idea who I am), Shauna's husband.
Matt, that's Shauna's husband, posted pictures of their house in it's un-staged condition. It looked really familiar. I don't have all the different things going on that she does, but that's irrelevant. I read several blogs regularly and they always post gorgeous photos of beautifully staged rooms.
If you're asking yourself how I find time to read blogs, but not to clean my house you should know that I'm questioning our friendship. The point I'm trying to make here is about how I feel about our home.
I know their homes don't always look like that, but I don't really know it, ya know? Rationally, I know they must have messy days too, but emotionally I don't. And mine is currently pretty bad. Like I'm embarrassed when I have to let craigslist shoppers in to see things I've posted bad.I mean, seriously, I'm also wearing my very last clean work appropriate shirt today, this is not reasonable long term.
But you know what? I want my daughter to grow up knowing that spending time with her is far more important to me than whether or not the house is immaculate on a daily basis (or ever really).
It turns out I'm not a lazy slob after all. I'm just a mom with her priorities in order and I feel awesome about that. Someday Norie will be all grown up and I'll have plenty of time for housework, but until then I'm going to do enough to make sure that the house is somewhat reasonable and we have some clean clothes and tasty food to eat without obsessing about it not being perfect or getting everything done. I'll keep choosing hanging out with her over housework as much as I possibly can.
And yes, that photo is totally instagram. I'm amberhibbs. You can follow me if you want.
Isn't so funny that seeing other people's messes make us feel better about ourselves! I read that post too and it made me feel a lot better hahaha. Norie is so cute! She looks like you!
ReplyDeleteHang in there, Amber! There are so many adjustments when there is a baby in the house. You are so correct recognizing that now is the time to be able to play and cuddle. She will be heading to kindergarten before you know it! By the way, your Mother and Daughter are beautiful together!
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